Poems about the death of a father often explore the complex relationship between father and child. They may touch upon unresolved conflicts, unspoken words, or missed opportunities for connection. These poems provide an opportunity for reflection, forgiveness, and healing, allowing the poet to come to terms with their emotions and find closure.
They may also acknowledge the profound impact of a father’s absence and the journey of navigating life without his guidance. In essence, poems about the death of a father serve as a poignant tribute to the deep bond between fathers and their children. They provide a space for expression, healing, and remembrance, capturing the complex emotions and the enduring impact of a father’s presence and absence.
Kavanagh’s poem portrays feelings of grief with startling potency by emphasising the presence of the speaker’s deceased father.
Every old man I see
Reminds me of my father
When he had fallen in love with death
One time when sheaves were gathered.
‘The Portrait’ by Stanley Kunitz is a sad poem about the speaker’s ill-fated attempt to learn more about their deceased father.
My mother never forgave my father
for killing himself,
especially at such an awkward time
and in a public park,
‘Electra on Azalea Path’ by Sylvia Plath reflects her visit to her father’s grave, mixing her personal sadness with Greek mythology to look at mourning, memory, and the deep emotions tied to her father’s death.
The day you died I went into the dirt,
Into the lightless hibernaculum
Where bees, striped black and gold, sleep out the blizzard
Like hieratic stones, and the ground is hard.
‘Do Not Go Gentle into That Good Night’ is Dylan Thomas’s most famous work, penned in response to his father’s death. This powerful poem urges resistance against the inevitable nature of death, encapsulating Thomas’s rich imagery and universal themes.
Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
‘Daddy’ by Sylvia Plath uses emotional, and sometimes, painful metaphors to depict the poet’s opinion of her father and other men in her life.
You do not do, you do not do
Any more, black shoe
In which I have lived like a foot
For thirty years, poor and white,
‘Obituary’ by A.K. Ramanujan explores the universal toll a parent’s passing can have on a child and all the ways that their memory remains even after their death.
Father, when he passed on,
left dust
on a table of papers,
left debts and daughters,
‘Poem at Thirty-Nine’ by Alice Walker describes the speaker’s father’s life. She admits how much she misses him and how she wishes he hadn’t had such a hard life.
How i miss my father.
I wish he had not been
so tired
‘Traveling Light’ by Alice Fulton is a powerful poem that weaves together images of the present and the past. Throughout, readers can explore Fulton’s understanding of her relationship with her father and her current relationship with the landscape around her.
Every restaurant boarded up in softwood,
bars strung with tipsy blinkers, smudgefires
against the dusk-
like day: who could have imagined the light
Tennyson’s ‘Maud (Part I)’ uses nature’s imagery to express deep love and anticipation for Maud, highlighting the speaker’s emotional wait.
Come into the garden, Maud,
For the black bat, night, has flown,
Come into the garden, Maud,
I am here at the gate alone;
‘Duplex: Cento’ explores the cyclical nature of love, conflict, and inherited emotional patterns. It touches on how past relationships, particularly with family, shape the way we love, argue, and deal with pain.
My last love drove a burgundy car,
Color of a rash, a symptom of sickness.
We were the symptoms, the road our sickness:
None of our fights ended where they began.
‘Long Distance II’ by Tony Harrison is an elegiac poem that describes a father’s way of grieving the death of his wife and his child’s reaction to his futile actions.
Though my mother was already two years dead
Dad kept her slippers warming by the gas,
put hot water bottles her side of the bed
and still went to renew her transport pass.
‘Winter Stars’ by Larry Levis tries to reconcile the estranged relationship between a son and their dying father.
My father once broke a man’s hand
Over the exhaust pipe of a John Deere tractor. The man,
Rubén Vásquez, wanted to kill his own father
With a sharpened fruit knife, & he held
Dawn Garisch’s poem ‘To My Father, Who Died’ is about the relationship of the poet’s father with the sea. It depicts the cycle of life and death through the metaphor of the sea.
On shimmering beaches you come to
me and sit in the caves of my sockets,
taking a long look out along the wash
to where the sea breathes white and ash
‘Cross’ by Langston Hughes uses a stereotypical image of a biracial man to explore identity and the inequalites one might encounter.
My old man’s a white old man
And my old mother’s black.
If ever I cursed my white old man
I take my curses back.
In ‘Lullaby,’ Fatimah Asghar recalls a story her sister told after their parents’ death, blending grief and fantasy to imagine their reunion beyond death.
When the sadness comes
My sister tells me a story -
A man buried in Pakistan
A woman buried in New York City